Monday, November 05, 2007

I love you guys...

I get tons of comments on posts about Chowder being "The Buttwiper" or the fact that we have official rules requiring pants at the dinner table, but when I post about my 16 yr old and birth control you all remain so politely silent.

8 comments:

Jenni said...

"In the end you have to look into the face of your individual child and take in account your individual family and move forward with honesty and faith."

I dunno...that sounded pretty final. I didn't think there was anything to say after that! LOL...

Cakes said...

My apologies if I in any way miscommunicated that Chowder being "The Buttwiper" was still up for discussion. ;)

Tertia said...

Only because I missed half of the story? I even scrolled down to see if I had missed a post and couldn't find it.

And because I am no where near that stage yet :-)

Thanks goodness!!!!

valerie said...

I'm still LOL at the pants at the table rule. :)

I have such mixed feelings about the issue, but I think RESPECT is key. Skrboy having respect for her, respect for himself, Becky respecting herself (hopefully she does and will stand up for what she believes). No coercion, no shaming, no bragging. And protection, for so many reasons. I'm assuming he knows (somewhat) how he came to be? My sister got pg at 17. Yet somehow her son missed that message and got his girlfriend pg (he was 28 but she was 19 or 20).

The Wadhwa Family said...

I've been thinking about this since the discussion elsewhere and one comment really struck me; this is reality for you, and I can only imagine at this point because my only child is a wee 4 mos old. I'd like to think that my thoughts on teens and birth control will always remain flexible in many shades of grey.

It wasn't clear to me at first, when I read your post, what you had decided to do (although I read it elsewhere, but your post confused me. I thought you changed your mind). Earlier today, I started thinking about this again and I think I missed it entirely when I read the post the first time. I was looking for a, "This is what I'm going to do" post, when I *think* you're actually writing more about the process. Further, what I got from it is that the process of deciding what to do as a parent in this situation is also large and complicated just as the concern you're facing. Anyway, I've been lost in thought about how so much of what I believed when I was: younger, not married, not a parent and just a flat out different human being, has really changed in the last few years. But oddly, I feel like I know myself better because of understanding these changes. So, basically, I've turned this huge aspect of parenting that you're dealing with right now into my own navel gazing.

shaz said...

i think your last comment pretty much summed it up.

valerie said...

I didn't really understand, either, what you were trying to say 'til I read your post on the bb. So I just tried to answer you there, though not much better than here, LOL.

In the end, you have to trust that you raised him well, 'cause any last minute advice won't change a lifetime of values.

Anonymous said...

I was also a confused momma here so rather than sound dumb, elected to remain silent.
In light of your next few posts, I now know what the heck you are talking about.
It is very hard because while purity is 1st choice, you have to be realistic about our kids having sex one day. Pregnancy and HIV and a reality and we protect our kids from every other danger or stumbling block, so I figure we need to protect them from this as well. I am not sure what I will do one day but have a few years to figure it out. I think he sounds very mature and sensible and his foundation has clearly been laid. well done parents & Jesus!
HC Mel